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Hi there 👋🏻
What’s up? A lot is happening these days! I’ve started an offbeat travel company, printed some t-shirts for it, and launched a new newsletter for it.
I’m also working on new ways to grow my newsletters and reach more people.
Recently, I invited people to travel with my new company, and most of them said they didn’t have time. It made me think about how often we delay the experiences we truly want and how easy it is to let life pass by.
It also made me think about deathbed regrets. Many people spend their lives focusing on work, responsibilities, or pleasing others. By the time they get a chance to live for themselves, it is often too late. It inspired me to write this newsletter edition, and in it, I will discuss deathbed regrets.
Do you know?
The late palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware, in her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, documented the most common regrets of people approaching the end of their lives. Drawing on her years of experience caring for terminal patients, she found that many wished they had lived lives true to themselves, rather than following the expectations of others. Her work shows that, at the end of life, people most often regret the opportunities they didn’t take, the choices they didn’t make, and the authentic lives they never fully lived.
Most common regrets:
I wish I’d lived a life true to myself, not what others expected
Too many people realise too late that they followed paths dictated by society, family, or fear, rather than their own dreams.
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
Many regret spending excessive time on work at the expense of family, friendships, and personal passions. Time is finite, but the moments you share with loved ones are forever.
I wish I’d expressed my feelings.
From childhood, we’re taught to hide emotions. Especially as a male, I've heard it more. And it causes us the pain we can’t bear in later life.
I wish I’d stayed in touch with friends.
Life’s busyness pushes us away from our friends. At the end, people miss laughter, memories, and companionship the most.
I wish I had allowed myself to be happier.
Surprisingly, many regret not letting go of fear, worry, or self-judgment. Happiness is a choice we can practice every day.
Maybe you’re doing these all right now as well.
I am afraid of it the most
I don’t have any other fear. I am only afraid of not living my life and dying with regrets. I don’t fear the deathbed itself; I fear the regrets I might carry on it.
We spend so much time following paths dictated by societal expectations or obligations, instead of pursuing our own passions. When we look back on our lives, we see how constrained we were by fear, duty, or the need for approval. And we wish we had been braver, more honest, and more willing to take risks for what truly mattered to us.
But sigh… regret is one of the most dangerous things in this world. We can’t change the past, yet it eats at us every second.
And I’m afraid of it.
Learn to say yes
Remember, whenever you say yes to something, you’re also saying no to something else.
Most of the time, we say yes to things that give us validation. But from now on, let’s start saying yes to the things that help us grow, the things that help us live a life we truly enjoy. We have lived enough for society; now let’s start living for ourselves, please.
Thanks for reading 🙂
In reflecting on these regrets, we can choose to live differently today. We can live with intention so that when the final chapter arrives, we look back with satisfaction. Life, after all, is measured not by what we acquire but by the love we give, the joy we cultivate, and the authenticity with which we live.
I hope this edition will shake you a bit.
See you!
— Anirban
Book I’m reading this week:
Things no one taught us about love by Vex King. I got this book as a gift. It’s not about teaching you how to love your partner, it’s about how love works and everything we don’t know about love.
1 thing I learnt this week:
A single cloud can weigh around a million tonnes (or 550 tons) 😳
Tool stack I use:
Fathom: AI notetaker + recorder.
Notion: My second brain.
Beehiiv: My newsletter tool.
Toggl: My time tracking tool.
